It's funny that you ask this because I began writing an article for my blog which talks about men who want rape play in the larger issue of how I think there is commonly some unconscious misogyny involved.

Originally Posted By Mistress Ayn
Of course I am referring to the type of fantasy where the male is raped (not doing the raping). Rape fantasies are common among women. So common that there has even been some research into them. Not so with men - at least that I am aware of.


I sometimes wonder if men aren't always honest about this fantasy. Because I've had some men ask me for rape play straight out, but others have said things which could be hinting at it like, "I want you to take me and do whatever you want," or "I want you to restrain me and force me to do whatever you want." I sometimes wonder if they are afraid to say the R word, maybe thinking I might be offended.

One time, during a kidnap roleplay, where rape play was not discussed, the person I was sessioning with suddenly blurted out "rape me!" and I went right into it. Afterward he commented about how surprised he was that I was so receptive. He was obviously delighted by it.

Originally Posted By "Mistress Ayn"
I doubt that male fantasies of being raped stem from the same things but I would find it interesting to see what does drive them. I have done these types of sessions before and the overall theme is humiliation by being used in a degrading way ... Any thoughts?


I have noticed a trend that concerns me somewhat: that men who want to be raped, they usually want to do it when dressed en femme. And it's not just rape play. It's other types of humiliation.

Why? I hate to say it, but it's seems that it's clear that because misogyny is so pervasive in our cultural narrative, that the way that men relate to erotic violence is that it is a female/feminine/femme thing. So if they eroticize certain types of violence, they feel compelled to inhabit a "female" mindset.

There's a lot more I could say here, but I should just finish my article !