Originally Posted By furfan
I should point out that I make a clear distinction between hard and soft limits. Hard limits are just that and violating one would constitute a serious breach of trust in my mind. Soft limits to me are areas of play or levels of intensity that I find challenging but am willing to have "on the table" sometimes as a possibility.


We define soft differently. What's important is that you and the person you play with are on the same page about them.


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In a CNC context I know that they may happen (or may not) but I am making an informed decision to give prior consent and to proceed.[/qupte]

OK. This is clearer. And, in my view, the correct way to understand CNC.

[quote]It occurs to me that it might be more accurate to call such play irrevocable consent rather than CNC.


People don't really get this, but you can never tell someone they have "irrevocable" consent. It's against the law. If someone is being whipped and uses their safeword, and the Dominant said, "Too bad!" and continues to whip them they could get charged with assault. What we're really doing is just fantasy. When done well it feels like you can't get out of it. smile