i was thinking today about long term Mistress /sub relationships. i have never thought that the Dommme that I serve could ever run out of one new ideas. We/we don't session as much any more only annually or semi-annually if i can arrange another trip to Her city.

Is this a challenge for Dommes who see the same subs for years?

Does this cause subs to drift away from their OTM (One True Mistress)?

Perhaps i am different as i pledged controlled submissive fidelity to my Mistress.

What is controlled submissive fidelity (CSF)? It is only seeing other Dommes when Your Mistress deems a visit appropriate.

For example, if Your Mistress finds that your sissy hole tightens up too much between sessions She may prescribe regular session by a Domme who lives near you and that She approves of.

By the way that regular stretching is how i became somewhat of a Size Queen.

There are a lot of potential factors to consider. If a sub has limited interests (and no desire to expand) and sees a Mistress frequently this can become an issue. However most devoted subs of this nature aren't looking for something new each visit. Spankos and foot fetishists are good examples of this. For them it's the little things: a new paddle, a new short skirt, RHT stockings, a new pair of shoes or a new role play . . .

If a sub has a variety of interests, then it's almost impossible for a creative Mistress to "run out of ideas". Interests like humiliation, electrical, medical, etc are almost a bottomless well for fun scenarios. If a Mistress enjoys what she does and wants to keep things interesting for both her and the sub, this should not be a problem.

That being said, I do understand the desire to see other Dommes and I have never been upset to find out that a sub has seen someone else - unless he is collared, then he needs to ask permission. Monogamy works in marriages for some, but not for others. I think it is the same in D/s relationships.

I believe it depends on the people and their dynamic.

Fetishists typically know what they want, even if some lie about it out of embarrassment or because they are trying to impress the Domme. Submissives can get more confused about what they want, in my experience. Some also go in cycles where they are really into serving and submitting, and then they want to completely distance themselves from anything BDSM.

When a sub leaves, we Dommes don't necessarily know why, unless the sub honestly tells us. I might not like to hear that they're now serving someone who's got a multi-room dungeon, or who is closer to their office, or who expects minimal tribute, but we all have our preferences. I have found that most steady subs who disappear, at least try to return later.