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#18698 - 04/23/23 08:29 PM Question for Dommes
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Have you ever felt like another Domme told one of her clients to come session with you so that she could "spy" on you?

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#18719 - 04/25/23 07:52 PM Re: Question for Dommes [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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Yes. I've even had subs 'fess up' after the fact about it. Its a weird thing, I don't really stress about it because I'm confident in My skills as a Domme and there's nothing new they'll learn from that interaction, I'm still getting paid. Did you have someone sneaky recently?


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#18720 - 04/25/23 09:09 PM Re: Question for Dommes [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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Yikes I wonder if it's the same crazy I've dealt with. People are weird.
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#18722 - 04/26/23 09:37 AM Re: Question for Dommes [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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Originally Posted By Mistress Tissa
Have you ever felt like another Domme told one of her clients to come session with you so that she could "spy" on you?


Over the years, maybe a half dozen times, I was used as a "training sub" with the Mistress teaching a newbie how to do a session. I remember one time the vibe was strange since the wanna-be domina seemed to get jealous.

The only time I was told to go to other Mistresses was with the legendar Mistress Ava Taurel in NYC. She said, "If you want to see busty dominant Amazons you must see xxx and xxx." Well, I did, and each lady was independent and more dominant kinky escorts that traditional Mistresses, but I had a great time with each. Both asked me about how I met Ava. They then told me that she got a cut of their tributes, which I guess was the beginning of her dungeon or "consulting" service.

But I never was a "spy" which, is pretty weird to say the least.

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#18738 - 04/28/23 07:00 PM Re: privacy [Re: Mistress UV]
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Originally Posted By Mistress UV
Yes. I've even had subs 'fess up' after the fact about it.


I had something similar. The sub mentioned the Domme and her questions about various details. In this case, I think it was opportunistic on the Domme's part. In the other cases, I think a client has been sent.

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Its a weird thing, I don't really stress about it because I'm confident in My skills as a Domme and there's nothing new they'll learn from that interaction, I'm still getting paid.


It bothers me because I'm a private person and I'm extending trust to the people I invite into my space. I don't want to feel like I can't trust my clients. I don't want to feel like some Dommes are trying to get info on me or whatever. Gross.

Some clients are big mouths. I know I had a sub tell a Domme where I'm located because that Domme later mentioned it. I had never told her. You may think it's harmless...until a crazy Domme (or client) gets your location and starts stalking you or sending the cops to your place. This didn't happen to me; it happened to another Domme here in Philly.

I don't think people realize that privacy isn't just something our clients are concerned about. We Dommes have privacy issues as well. And I would argue they may be more serious that those of our clients.

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Did you have someone sneaky recently?


I believe so. He didn't come out and say it but there are other clues there which leads me to believe he was a "plant".

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#18739 - 04/28/23 07:01 PM Re: Question for Dommes [Re: DommeLynx]
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Originally Posted By DommeLynx
Yikes I wonder if it's the same crazy I've dealt with. People are weird.


Hm. I wonder to which "crazy" you're referring

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#18743 - 04/29/23 03:29 AM it was market research [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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As a sub, my favorite domme would ask if I sessioned with such and such, and how did it go?

She also told me to session with Ms Avalon, when I asked does she really look that good in person, as her pictures.

She was doing market research, or scoping out the competition. I call that "SMART" ! !

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#18751 - 04/29/23 06:03 PM Re: it was market research [Re: llf]
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Originally Posted By llf
As a sub, my favorite domme would ask if I sessioned with such and such, and how did it go?

She also told me to session with Ms Avalon, when I asked does she really look that good in person, as her pictures.

She was doing market research, or scoping out the competition. I call that "SMART" ! !


That's not what I'm talking about.

I've had subs tell me they saw a Domme and it was or wasn't good because it comes up when you're talking about playing together. If they disclose this I may inquire about why it wasn't good as it helps me understand them better. But I don't ask for lots of details about the session, like what she said and did, or where the Domme is located. For one, it's none of my business; two, it's a violation of that Domme's privacy; and three, I don't need to because I can come up with my own ideas.

I think some Dommes are just not very good at this and they have to do things like plagiarize other Dommes or even go so far as to ask a sub to go to a Domme so they can do recon on them, I guess. It's hard to believe because it's really gross and unethical but, hey, some people are really gross and unethical.

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#18756 - 04/30/23 08:27 AM Re: Question for Dommes [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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Originally Posted By Mistress Tissa
Have you ever felt like another Domme told one of her clients to come session with you so that she could "spy" on you?


I really didn't want to chime in since you did specifically direct your questions to fellow dommes like yourself but part of me wants to chime in on this topic. I had primarily seen Miss Tegan up in Philly. With me living in the Baltimore area it wasn't always the most convenient to head 2 hours every so often to session. As she was becoming less and less active due to her vanilla work schedule, we agreed I could see other dommes in Philly but also I asked specifically what I thought about a well known domme who had just relocated to the DC metro area that had a place previously in Philly. She agreed we'd probably hit it off well and even encouraged me to reach out to her and that she would also reach out on my behalf to let her know more about me and the things we've done and what she knew I didn't enjoy as much but wanted to continue training in. We basically hit it off like we've known each other for years as a result. I told her specifically on some things we did that I honestly didn't really enjoy as much as I made it out to be, she gave me the option if I ever wanted to try those things again to do it slowly and to approach it like a novice so I can experience it at a different level than previous.

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#18757 - 04/30/23 05:35 PM Re: Question for Dommes [Re: Smiley]
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Originally Posted By Smiley
I really didn't want to chime in since you did specifically direct your questions to fellow dommes like yourself but part of me wants to chime in on this topic. I had primarily seen Miss Tegan up in Philly. With me living in the Baltimore area it wasn't always the most convenient to head 2 hours every so often to session. As she was becoming less and less active due to her vanilla work schedule, we agreed I could see other dommes in Philly but also I asked specifically what I thought about a well known domme who had just relocated to the DC metro area that had a place previously in Philly. She agreed we'd probably hit it off well and even encouraged me to reach out to her and that she would also reach out on my behalf to let her know more about me and the things we've done and what she knew I didn't enjoy as much but wanted to continue training in. We basically hit it off like we've known each other for years as a result. I told her specifically on some things we did that I honestly didn't really enjoy as much as I made it out to be, she gave me the option if I ever wanted to try those things again to do it slowly and to approach it like a novice so I can experience it at a different level than previous.


Yes, I was asking Dommes. Though I'm also interested if subs have ever been asked by a Domme to go session with someone and then asked for information about that Domme, such as specifics about her space, how she works, or where she's located.

Smiley, though I appreciate you sharing your experience, what you describe here is not what I'm talking about.

In your case there is an attempt to help a client connect with another Domme who is closer to you, which has good intentions. In the case I'm speaking about the Domme is sending one of her clients to go session with another Domme to spy and do recon on her, which does not have good intentions.

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