I think your question is a little confusing, at least for me and my style of play.

When contacting a Domme for the first time, I have always had an honest exchange of my interests, and more importantly of my hard limits. My interests are defined in broad terms, things like CBT, NT, heavy bondage etc. I am very content to leave the details to her for how she chooses to explore those interest. There have been Dommes who have taken the time to chat with me about my hard limits and to explain how they could be safely expanded and that has also worked well. I have far fewer hard limits that when I first started seeing Dommes.

Mistress Troy Orleans wrote an excellent post on her website about playing from "yes". To her that simply means that the sub should always be willing to try new things that could expand their experiences and interests. For example, a sub could say that they want to experience CBT, but to expand that she might decide to do some play piercing as part of that scene. That kind of trust of course comes from a longer term commitment to a Domme.

Not sure what you mean by a Domme using trickery or deceit to get what she wanted in a session. Honest communication, mutual trust and a sincere effort from me to play from "yes" has always worked pretty well to create sessions where I and the Domme finish feeling that the session worked well for us both.