Originally Posted By "junglebeast"
In my... exhuberance to share my experiences I offened professional ladies I value.


Discussing a past experience isn't necessarily problematic, in my eyes. Especially if it directly relates to a professional Domme in some way or somehow enhances the discussion about pro Dommes. For example, someone who asked his pro Domme if she would be willing to work with an escort for a doubles session.

Originally Posted By "Spark"
I've seen posts around how to find domination in strip clubs, with real life partners etc. perhaps I assumed incorrectly, that it was ok to discuss kinky sex work even if it didn't come from a pro domme.


Maybe other Dommes have been OK with it. Or maybe they just didn't say anything, for fear of backlash or it hurting their careers. Or maybe because we get so used to the ways in which our work is continuously appropriated by the carnal desires of men and therefore don't understand they have a right to feel bothered by the way we are sometimes treated like chattel by our "submissives".

Originally Posted By "Spark"
that also doesn't mean a sugar baby, escort, or stipper cant provide a great experience as well. Ive had great but different experiences with both and I used this forum to share my kink adventures.


Originally Posted By "TheDriver"
But I think some guys are looking for ways to allay this guilt by spending less money, and in doing so, compare notes and look for "better deals".


This is not my point, though.

Again:

I understand that different providers offer different things -- even between pro Dommes.

I understand wanting a variety of experiences.

I understand wanting to save money.

I'm just saying I don't think those conversations feel appropriate here, in a forum for and by pro Dommes who have tried so hard to bring your fantasies to life, at significant cost, real risk, and occasional peril.

By all means, go to a more kink-generic space like Fetlife, start a group, and share stories and tips there.

I don't write this to squelch conversation. I like a vibrant exchange of experiences and ideas, I'm just asking people to be a little more conscientious and respectful about how they may be (inadvertently) turning this into a place where no Dommes visit, it's just a few cowboys at the bar and some tumbleweed.


Edited by Mistress Tissa (03/25/23 10:40 PM)