I appreciate your apology, Chi61. Thank you. However, I doubt most people are intentionally trying to do these things. What I think happens is lack of conscientiousness and empathy.

People don't stop and think, "Should I be discussing how to get an escort to do kinky stuff with me in front of women who have put thousands and thousands of dollars and hours into their work and dungeons? And have spent years on these board talking with us, for free, about how to make our fantasies reality and do it safely? Do I come across as selfish and insensitive?"

Because if they did, I would hope the answer would be "Yes, I look egocentric. I think I shouldn't discuss that here out of respect to these women."



Yes, I think that's the case, too. But the comments usually are more focused on how to get kink from people who aren't professional Dominatrices...in forums or groups for professional Dominatrices.




I do, too. I can't imagine that any escort/sugar baby/service top could even come close to delivering what I do in a session, in terms of intimately understanding kink, the psychology and execution; the dungeon, the wardrobe, etc. This goes for any better, long-term professional Domme.



I totally get this. I'm just saying that I think discussing this doesn't belong here.

I think men need to more carefully consider that they way they express themselves is what Dommes will use to determine whether they want to spend time here having conversations. If Dommes see guys talking about how to get that college co-ed to kick him in the balls so he can save a couple hundred bucks, do you think she will want to participate in that space?