I have similar kinks and Thats been my experience as well. I normally just send a short text that says “id like to combine your companionship services with some kinky femdom activities such as…. “. I include screening info and Ive had a lot of positive responses.

Ive found many open to it even if they don’t list it as in interest.

Even better i think many have downright enjoyed taking their aggression out on me :-)!