Buffalo,

Sometimes it’s just luck. I ask upfront a lot. Most are willing to at least try. I also will use the Tryst search engine, deselect BDSM so no professional Dommes show up in results, then use key words like “kink”, “dom”, “bdsm”. That works best in major cities. But my overall experience has been that most escorts will entertain reasonable requests, as long as you ask up front.

It also helps that my main kinks are ballbusting and tease/denial. Asking an escort to kick you in the nuts and tease/edge you until you’re begging is not a big ask. Many of the ones I’ve met genuinely seem to find it hot. I suspect there are other kink activities that may have a lower rate of acceptance among escorts.