I know what you're saying about letting the HJ comment just turn into role play, I've been asked a million times and just ignored the begging, and made it part of the scene-- however this particular HJ guy refused to start the session without Me agreeing on that, so he was either LE or just a total dickhead. These were both years ago in the backpage days, I'm frankly glad the site is down because it seems like less random public exposure and more true subs that book with Me.
I would love for someone reading to realize their behavior was wrong and hopefully learn from it, as far as retaliation, I think very its unlikely. Its unfortunate but I think every Domme who's been in the scene long enough has had to deal with subs pushing limits and doing weird shit.