Hi JB,

Thank you for starting this thread. Id like to share my experiences.

Ive had 2 relationships that started as a pro Domme/client relationship. I have no idea if this is rare or common. But I certainly think its possible when two people share an intimate space. Interestingly In both situations the women shared with me how hard it was to date and find partners supportive of their work. While both situations started in a Femdom session and we did some Femdom once we moved into the relationship phase i would describe both as vanilla with minimal femdom.

In my first one i was 34 and she was 27. So fairly close in age and definitely close in maturity After a few sessions and a few paid “dates”. I thought we had a connection. But the relationship really blossomed when she had surgery and I Offered to come over and help her out for a few a days. From there it turned into a fairly consistent but somewhat casual relationship. It lasted a few years and we eventually drifted a part. But it ended well and i have fond memories.

The 2nd one i would describe as more complicated but i had a very deep love for her. It lasted 2 years. travel, dates, living together etc. it was incredibly fun and we were very compatible at the time . She also had some things that she needed help with and i felt good about being able to support. She was younger than me and ultimately we wanted different things out of life. It ended well. But i do occasionally look at her social media posts, i know that she has struggled with relationships and while im hesitant to judge also has started to live more of a “party” lifestyle. i think she is masking past traumas and I feel guilty that i enabled that and couldn't do more to help her.

In both situations these women still work as professional Dommes and sometimes their is an urge to reach out to both (especially the 2nd one) and setup a session. I wont ever do that because we moved well past a transactional relationship and i feel like it would be very damaging to both of us. In addition I feel if i were to go back the risk of a bad ending is almost a forgone conclusion. But the ability to do that has caused a range of complicated emotions and confusion that i talk through with a therapist regularly.