Originally Posted By TheDriver
Ms Tissa
Many of us on the board have found ourselves in similar situations to the OP. Probably many of your clients as well.

Instead of the response you gave, I wish you would offer some kind of advice or something helpful......for all I know, he may be flying to see you.

Life just isn't as black and white as your response implies, at least not for me. I have grey areas that I struggle with daily. And a leg up from someone who understands is always welcome.

Best Regards
The Driver



In addition to being a Dominatrix, I offer coaching and counseling, as I've had training to be a psychotherapist. So my response comes from a place of caring about people's mental health and overall wellbeing.

I have spoken with men who are in relationships with people, sometimes for 30 or 40 or more years, who do not know they are kinky, and they have gone to great lengths to hide this. I am allowed to feel sorry for these people. I know the kind of pain it can cause. I have tried to help them find ways to discuss this with their partners, who they often haven't given a chance to listen, understand, and help them with their needs and desires.

I never implied anything was black or white, and am quite aware of how clients, including some of my own, have tried to navigate these scenarios, whether like the one I described above or something else, and have offered simple advice to work around them, even though it some of these scenarios make me uncomfortable on a personal level.

So, my advice is if you are hiding something from someone, try to talk to them about it.