Incremental is a good way to describe it.

A couple weeks ago I was chatting with a Domme I didn’t know on SextPanther. We were having a great discussion and had similar interests. Her session space was relatively close, so I emailed and 48 hours later we were face to face having a session. Within minutes of starting, I was tied up, completely at her mercy, being abused. Is this wise to do with someone I don’t know and just met online? Does this constitute trust? She’s a well known Domme, established, excellent reputation, etc. I would argue the risk was very low.

Would I have trusted her in our first session however to try new things, push into areas I was uncomfortable with, no. That trust needs to be built in my opinion.

So to me, seeing a pro Domme requires a basic level of trust. I need to feel comfortable the person is experienced, respects boundaries, etc. but that level of trust can exist just from research, pre session dialogue, etc. Otherwise there would be no first sessions. Beyond that though is where trust is built “incrementally”.

I saw a younger Domme once and I don’t remember the full context, but after one of our sessions I said “I trust you” in response to something and she replied with “I hope so, you just let me kick you in the balls for the last hour”. Lol