Originally Posted By Chi61
I’ve thought about this from time to time. As a sub, it is a bit odd to me to put trust in someone who I typically know very little about, including not even their real name. Conversely though, it’s hard not to quickly build trust with someone when you are letting them tie you naked to a chair, bench, cross. Being completely at someone’s mercy tends to build trust quick. I think for many of us who lead pretty vanilla lives, our only outlet for any bdsm urges tends to be pro Dommes, so putting trust in a stranger is required.


Interestingly zxpTcEtc feels that building trust is a slow process. To my thinking it is incremental, neither very slow nor very quick. And it depends to some degree it varies with the Dommme. There was one Domme I was very fond of who once wanted me do something that I felt had too much of a risk of a fall that might break a limb so I refused. So I guess I did not trust her implicitly.

Also I am something of an exception to your last sentence.