if a choke is done right, you don't know it. you just wake up. i've never asked a domme or a session wrestler to put me out but i've gone out competitions and training. the times that i've gone out i was fighting the choke working out of it thinking i was good i've got air and then i woke up. that's a blood choke done properly.

its much different when you are surrendering control and not fighting. say going to a session wrestler and stuffing your head in there and helping her lock it in. when i did session wrestling, it kind of killed my suspension of disbelief when they used unrealistic holds like scissoring. i was always doing fantasy sessions because i'm submissive and it opened up a lot more women to session with. i would specifically ask for them to use holds like the rear naked choke, triangle or something like that.

i've never seen or brought someone around by slapping their face. that seems like something you used to see in pro wrestling. in all of the gyms i trained in, someone elevates their legs. they try to get blood flow back to the brain. unless of course, it was the result of a blow to the head.

if you want to go out and be safe about it, look for a domme with a black belt in judo or jiu jitsu. you'd be surprised at the number of women with legit world championships that do this. if there are none in your area, you might be able to find someone with an advanced belt from a reputable association. if they have it, they usually highlight it by listing black belt under so and so or brown belt under so and so. the people who have competed will have more knowledge and skill than someone that just went to a martial arts instructor to learn a specific hold or technique.