The problem with "votary" is that it only describes the sub's position not the relationship. I certainly am a votary of Mistress but she sees our relationship as something two way in some sense; not giving up her superior and commanding position but not merely a transactional one. We have many times together where there is no financial exchange but rather service by me. this of course is also providing something of value but it is not merely transactional. We are totally honest with one another and there is a level of trust that is different than anything I have had with another domme. this is hard to describe . . .