Thanks to all for your thoughts/suggestions. I did send an email today requesting a refund. If I don’t get a response in a week or so, I’ll try a text on SP.

Great attitude to take Mistress......probably why you are successful long term.

100% agree with Mistress Ayn.

In my 7.5 years as a pro I've never had a no-show. I think it's because I weed out the types who do that sort of thing, and as a result I have a fantastic group of clients.



Absolutely. Unless you have no wardrobe, no equipment, no business expenses, and are holding improv-style sessions out of your bedroom, you have costs, both material and labor, in this line of work. Deposits offer some economic and emotional protection.

There are many other professions that require deposits. People who act offended by them are just upset because they won't be able to ghost you without repercussion. It's a great way to vet your clients.

Agreed.

I have a life long habit of showing up for appointments,meetings, etc I ask for.

I never felt like deposits were a big deal.

Mistress Tisza Sorry I meant to reply to this and forgot.

Tbh I’d prefer deposits weren’t necessary but I can definitely see why they are. There is a definite mental commitment on the part of the sub once he puts that deposit down which I actually like because then I know it’s on and there’s an anticipation and excitement that builds. My problem is I am very paranoid about leaving a paper trail with things like Venmo Zelle Cash App etc. But I have been lucky and found Dommes who will work with me and take Amazon gift cards which can be purchased at supermarkets etc and I send them the code and have had no problems.

I don't think most people would say they prefer deposits.



There's other ways to work around concerns like yours. You can look for Domme who also allow you to mail payments.

I don't accept gift cards as payment for my work because I can't pay my mortgage with a gift card.

One more thing to consider. Are you sure it was that established mistress you send the deposit to rather than a scam artist? Can you contact her through a different channel to check out the story?