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#17221 - 05/26/22 09:51 PM Tipping
Spark Offline
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Registered: 08/15/19
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I couldnt find a thread on tipping but thought it could be an interesting topic.

Ive always tipped for a session and i have a pretty standard approach i do an extra 50-100 per hour and tip at the start of the session along with the session fee. I normally say something like “ i really appreciate our tome together and tried to add a little extra”. I try not to be cheesy about it. My goal is always to show appreciation and not get anything extra but i do think this approach has led to better sessions even if its subconscious on her part.

What do others do with tipping?

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#17222 - 05/27/22 04:19 AM Re: Tipping [Re: Spark]
furfan Online   content
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First let me say that I pretty much only session with established independent Dommes rather than at 'houses'.

I view indi Pro Dommes as professionals free to set their own fees, much like a lawyer, accountant or a skilled trades person. I really don't feel tipping is appropriate or needed any more than it is for other professionals you have hired at an agreed upon rate. I don't "top up" my lawyer's or accountant's invoice.

Having said that, I will sometimes bring a gift of wine, perfume, chocolate or other small item from a Domme's wishlist if she provides one on her website.....especially for Dommes I have sessioned with often and am friendly with....( more as a token of respect and admiration than a financial transaction)

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#17223 - 05/27/22 04:36 AM Re: Tipping [Re: Spark]
Chi61 Online   content
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It varies a bit for me. I have someone I see regularly who I always give extra to. I always just include that upfront. We never talk about it. She drives about an hour to see me and usually stays for a couple hours with no definitive pre set amount of time. So I’ve always felt extra was appropriate

For others, I would say I tip maybe 70% of the time and always at the end. I usually target about a 15% to 20% tip but it depends a bit on the session. If I’ve really enjoyed myself and felt it was an awesome session then I always tip.

I bounce a bit these days between seeing pro Dommes and seeing kinky escorts. I only mention this because their rates per hour can be quite different I find I tip Dommes more often than I tip escorts, but that’s not a hard and fast rule on my part.

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#17224 - 05/27/22 07:50 AM Re: Tipping [Re: Chi61]
langerr Online   content
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Registered: 07/09/19
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Originally Posted By Chi61


I bounce a bit these days between seeing pro Dommes and seeing kinky escorts. I only mention this because their rates per hour can be quite different I find I tip Dommes more often than I tip escorts, but that’s not a hard and fast rule on my part.


Is that because the session rate for Dommes is more or less than kinky escorts?

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#17227 - 05/27/22 10:51 AM Re: Tipping [Re: ]
Cheyenne Online   content

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I'm not a fan of the tipping structure. As an independent, I set my rates where they should be and, openly, didn't accept tips. However, in a tipping situation, I agree with Spark. Just get the money out of the way and enjoy the escape.

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#17229 - 05/27/22 02:31 PM Re: Tipping [Re: langerr]
Chi61 Online   content
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Tbh it varies but for me, the escorts I see tend to have higher prices than Dommes.

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#17230 - 05/27/22 03:20 PM Re: Tipping [Re: Spark]
zxpTcEtc Offline
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Registered: 09/09/21
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Dommes experienced and willing in heavy impact are rare, yes I ABSOLUTELY tip known compatible players. In the envelope--nothing said, nothing expected. Just a gesture of appreciation.

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#17231 - 05/27/22 03:53 PM Re: Tipping [Re: Spark]
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I don't usually tip independents, although I have in a few cases where I knew they provide outstanding sessions, or when their rate was well below the level of Dommes of their quality. They deserved it.

I always include it in the envelop prior to the session and never say anything about it. One time I gave her cash after the session and that felt tacky to me. YMMV

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#17233 - 05/27/22 07:13 PM Re: Tipping [Re: Spark]
The Thomas Online   content
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Registered: 10/20/15
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I will confess to being inconsistent when it comes to tipping. When I do tip it is at the end of the session and depends on how much I enjoyed the session. For some reason I got in the habit of not tipping disciplinarians early on and that has persisted.

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#17235 - 05/27/22 07:46 PM Re: Tipping [Re: Cheyenne]
furfan Online   content
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That kind of lines up with my thoughts. Dommes are professionals. They set their fees at the level they are happy to do the session for. The only time i would consider a tip would be after a session where the Domme went above and beyond. Even then, I would be more inclined to send her a gift from her wish list afterwards as a token of appreciation.

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