Originally Posted By EGCG
Spanking isn't one of my fetishes, so I am curious as to what spankos get out of it.

I've seen some amazingly hot pictures of women in domestic discipline garb and dominatrix clothing spanking men. Spankos don't get to enjoy that visual feast. The top is behind them and the spanko is mostly likely laying on their stomach on a bed.

1. Is it enjoyment of the pain?

2. Is it a parent/authority figure fetish?

3. Is it the enjoyment of the D/s?


I'm not a masochist. I am a festishist into D/s and authority figure power play. I wonder if I could learn to tolerate and like the pain, the idea being that the pain would enhance my enjoyment of D/s. OTOH the pain could kill any arousal.

What about domestic discipline professionals who do not see themselves and dominatrixes, and who do not go beyond domestic spanking scenes.

Are they into it for the power exchange, but just don't have interest in going further into being dominatrixes?



There are some who define fetish narrowly to apply only physical objects. They object when someone applies it to an activity. Just saying.

I have in the past defined myself as being 60% masochist and 40% submissive. I am not a pure spanko but there have been periods when I close to being one (including one when I was mostly the top) However what I am going to describe applies to my masochism in general and not just spanking.

Pain without human interaction holds no attraction for me. A punishment vibe transforms the experience (though alternatively being compelled by pain to something works) In my early days I did a lot of role play. As I developed I found that the emotional tones elicited by the role play could be more simply generated by skillful Dommes.