My rule of thumb is that if the pix of a Mistress is too good to be true, it probably is. Also I want to actually speak with the Mistress on the phone to judge if she is legit. And one more point about deposits: I won't use credit cards. I will send deposits by snail mail (for traveling dominas). Over the years I sent deposits to established players who have reviews or who I have seen before. I've never been burned. That takes " the wrong head " as oracle correctly put it, out of the equation.