I heard about Mistress Michelle Lacy's throw-down on MF and took a look. I cheered as I read it. Briefly considered logging into that cesspool to comment, but...eh.




I've been a pro for 7 years (i.e. not before many of the commonly used platforms were in place), and so I don't know what it was like to do this work in a pre-social-media or even pre-internet environment, but I do remember what it was like to do other jobs and things in those environments.

I think one thing the internet has done is made us feel more impatient and entitled. And that is already an issue when it comes to sexual gratification. We become horny and we want release. Now or you're an ugly whore and I didn't want to session with you anyway. This seems to only have gotten worse as various technologies and platforms are created around those demands. This inevitably has and will continue to shape expectations and have an impact on how we do our work.

All those wistful stories I've read about how Dommes were in the 70s, 80s, or 90s? Where are the subs of the 70s, 80s, or 90s? Because you complain about how Dommes are "not what they used to be", but neither are you.

Which brings me to my next point that I think it's also a generational thing. I've noticed that older clients treat it more like magic, addressing me respectfully, sometimes getting on their knees when they arrive to show reverence, bringing gifts. Younger clients treat it more causally. The cultural element of FemDom and ritual is missing for them. I had a client in his 20s actually ask for change when he handed me cash for a tribute.

And when it comes to gifts, I don’t know about other Dommes, but that’s changed, too. It used to be that most subs would bring them – especially for their first session – or send a tribute here and there for all sorts of fun reasons. "I had a dream about you, Mistress, and I thought I should send a tribute to you for it." That’s just not happening anymore.
But this isn’t about gifts, per se. It's about the magic of coming to see a/your Domme and how gifts can be a part of that energy. To show us that you find it special enough to inspire you to go a little above and beyond, which in turn inspires us.

So, as much as I see guys complain, I completely understand why more and more erotic professionals move their content behind a paywall, or who might offer clients fewer privileges when coming for in-person sessions. It's because all the impatience and entitlement are translating to how we're treated.

You want a Goddess but you treat her like garbage? Good luck with that, buddy.

But maybe this is just my experience. (The pandemic surely has something to do with behavior in the last couple of years, too, but I think much of this still applies.)




The internet has only liked us as far as they could make money from us. When things start leaning a little too much in our favor (and by that I mean women), they want to remind us who they want us to believe we're owned by. Women are reclaiming a little too much power nowadays. Gotta yank that leash.




This is very much a real struggle for us. It's very hard to think about how to Do The Hot Thing when you're just fighting to keep the space to Do The Hot Thing. You don't know if your next tweet is going to be your last. You could get flagged and your account of X years -- and all the work that went into it -- is permanently gone. It makes a lot of us cranky, on edge. And then we get complaints about dumb shit or not even a lousy $10 tribute to say thanks for all the free stuff you enjoy that we bust our asses over? Here, enjoy some political posts! Hope they kill your boner!




I have always been the "I'll just do everything myself" type of person. So I can't imagine not having 10 jobs. At least I know everything we be done the way I want it. :>