This is actually more helpful

Sounds like a match, Mikey. Check out my site if you haven't already. Request a scene maybe 1 - 2 weeks in advance, if you can.

Until I safeword?

This reminds me I was writing something about pain for my blog and never finished.

Pain is both physical and psychological. Several factors go into how one "tolerates" pain. Warm ups, desensitization, and various techniques to alter perception.

Go to a Domme who grasps these things and can consciously work with you to help you grow here.

Until you safeword? If you safeword out, I'm still a sadist. I think what you're thinking of is a psychopath. They don't care about your safewords.

No...A domme stops when you safeword You asked how much I could take...Be pushed to Safeword...I think that is a fair answer

Maybe I misunderstand you but being pushed until I safeword is not a good answer when asked how much you can take. Everyone is different and some people will safeword after one hard cane stroke while others will take 50 abd still not safeword.

I agree with you. That's why I suggested a measurable test.

Answering that question truthfully will also let the Domme know you have actually experienced it, not just fanaticized about it.

Ah, I see. This is the problem with not quoting the question you're answering. And answering a question I thought you already answered.

Safewords are meant to be used as an emergency signal, not some method of turning your Dominant into your service top. Their point is to let your partner(s) know something has gone terribly wrong. I don't let my scenes go to that point, so if they were used it would have to be something imperceptible to me. (This has never happened, by the way.) Otherwise, I stop before a safeword is needed.

Have you actually been whipped before?

I agree, buffalo. Approaching a scene where the goal is to get to safeword sounds like someone who isn't experienced.

If someone wants to be pushed to see how much they can take, that is different.