So, apologies if this is too political or controversial.

A couple months ago I had a session scheduled with a Domme I had spoken with many times on NF and had virtual sessions with but had never met live. I really wanted to do a live session with her, so we scheduled something knowing it was about a 3 hour flight for me to get there

I was super excited for the session but the day before I got an email from her with the day of protocol - where to go, etc but it also stated when I arrived we would both take COVID tests and not session if either of us tested negative twice (in case of false positive on the first test)

I had a number of issues with this but was mostly driven by flying in for the session. If I tested positive was I supposed to turn around jump back on a plane knowing I had COVID? Stay in this city until I tested negative? Also, traveling that far knowing not sessioning was a possibility and having no control over it just felt like too big a risk for me to justify going. And I guess in some regards it just felt like a bridge too far for me. I don’t mind providing vac proof, I’ve sessioned in a mask, I saw a Domme who required pre and post showers due to COVID (which I still don’t understand the reasoning for). But for some reason, perhaps the intrusive nature of the test, this just felt like too much for me.

In fairness to this Domme, she did acknowledge that communication could have been better and I should have known the requirement earlier. She also offered some solutions including refunding my deposit which I thought was very kind of her.

Ultimately, I decided not to go and canceled the session. So, I’m curious folks here thoughts on: 1) are other Dommes requiring tests and 2) if sessioning would you agree to it?

That is a tough one. When I travel for a session it is with a vacation or family visits planned around it. To travel for the sole purpose of a session and have it not work work out would suck. Tests can be unreliable on top of it. It is too bad you connected with someone and aren't able to meet up with.

Not session if you both tested negative twice? That makes no sense.

Typo, positive twice

I assumed it was a typo. But, to your original question, why not take the a test the day before or of you board the plane? I could be mistaken but, I'm pretty sure that it takes a few days after contraction for the virus to show up on a test. Unless you were going to make a week out of visiting the area, it could be tough to be 100% guaranteed.

It is neither, the pandemic is a fact.



I would honestly appreciate that.

It would protect my safety, the safety of my friends and family, as well as her own safety.



I don't know what your kinks are, but you are visiting a sex worker to have intense things done to you, maybe even put in you or on you. That doesn't mesh with feeling that a safety test is intrusive. No disrespect and no insult is meant.



Exactly!

You should have known about this upfront.

To her credit she admitted her mistake.




It wasn't just kind, it was the right thing to do given her mistake by not communicating her requirements sooner. It is also good business on her part to refund a deposit for a session canceled for a fair reason.

She deserves credit for that as well.

Sorry about the large amount of disappointment.

My experience is limited to parties and events. They do temp checks at the door at most parties and munches. A few events require a clear covid test that was taken within 48 hours prior. Traveling in might be a gamble. The event would have to be fabulous and offer full refunds before I paid for tickets that required a test after travel.

I’ve done temp checks before sessions and didn’t have an issue with it. I’m not sure if the requirement was a negative test 48 hours in advance how I would have felt, but I probably would have passed on it. I don’t know why testing for sessions is an issue for me but other COVID protocols aren’t. Maybe it’s the absurdity of having to show proof of vaccination AND a negative test. Like if I have to prove via test that I’m negative why does being vaccinated matter? Also not really sure why two months later I’m still thinking about this, lol. Luckily pre session testing for now at least seems to be the exception and not the norm.

There is a saying what you don't know cannot hurt you. This is a situation where what you don't know can not only hurt you, but also many people around you. Your point of view is your own, but it is minoritary, and if you will cite specialists of the same opinion they are in minority too. If you are right you have to put up with an inconvenience. If you are wrong you seriously endanger people.

So while you deserve credit for being sincere you are alienating people.

These convictions of yours is why I could never recommend a mistress to you when you were searching.

I can definitely see why you chose not to travel for this session with it depending on a negative test just prior to the session. Would you have agreed to be tested if it was a local session to where you live?

As for me it would depend on the situation if I would agree to be tested. If it was someone local who I had an already established relationship and submissive feelings for then yes I would. If it was local and someone I was going to see for the first time then maybe. It would depend on how badly I wanted to see them. If I was traveling long distance for the sole purpose of the session then probably no I would not schedule if there was a chance of showing up and not being able to session.