Good insight guys!

I actually am probably more aligned with your approach then i led you to believe. Ive been asked a few times for money for a meet and greet. Ive always turned it down. However when ive done the meet and greet i’ve typically offered a token amount about $100-$200. Sometime during the date with a comment along the lines of “I am really enjoying getting to know you and just wanted to provide a small gift to show i an sincere. I hope it makes your day a little better”.

I believe the standard is not to pay on an initial meet and it is generally not expected but appreciated.

Also just to bring this thread back to femdom all of my dates didnt have femdom experience. All described themselves as vanilla. But all were very interested, accepting and open to exploring further. It just is a nice reminder for me that if we share the things we enjoy many people will accept you. Not something i realized 20 years ago.