Originally Posted By Peetieweetie
As a sub, I often don't give proper feedback because I don't want to be perceived as topping from the bottom. But how would I know you want to see me moan, to hear me suck in my breath, and to see my erection? I'm reading about it for the very first time from your query above. I am not a mind reader.


Do you consider moaning, inhaling or having an erection "topping from the bottom"?

I think you can see from other Mistresses' comments here that we all want some kind of feedback. Playing with a limp non-responsive sub is the equivalent of playing with a sex doll. I wouldn't enjoy that - not for long anyway.

All subs process session activities in their own way. Some like to slip away - maybe close their eyes - and internalize. I get that, but My point is, if you don't give some sort of response (verbal or non-verbal) we have nothing to feed us or direct us other than a list of your preferred activities or other information you gave us prior to the session.

Originally Posted By Peetieweetie
And what about the subs you thought had a magical time, but didn't? How would you know? They never come back. All of this is a failure of verbal and nonverbal communication.


Usually when I think there was magic, there is feedback from the sub either during or after the session that confirms this. Again, magic happens when a sub is responsive. Subs often comment on the time they had prior to exiting the dungeon, but I also ask for an email follow up a couple of days later after they have had time to process everything. Most subs comply and this is when I get useful and articulate feedback that helps Me know how to direct future sessions and start working My way into a subs head.
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