I’ve been on SA for a couple years and all of this advice is spot on. Leading with any kink/fetish doesn’t work but with the right SB it can definitely be introduced once you build some trust. For me personally it’s been really interesting to bring my fetish into an ongoing relationship as I’ve only experienced it prior with pro Dommes.

SA is full of scammers and rinsers though and it’s very easy to get taken advantage of. You almost have to accept that you’re going to waste a fair amount of money in your search sorting through it all. But in my experience it was ultimately worth it. I’ve been with my current SB for 7 months and really enjoy having an ongoing relationship where my fetish is out in the open and part of the relationship.