I tend to think it is okay here since it deals with the balance of femdom and straight sex in personal lives. Is anyone offended by this topic? A post that was in a close grey area was moved a week or so ago. I didn't realize what "SW" meant and did not understand the point the original poster was making. Sometimes it is a close call. I appreciate everyone's input on such matters.

Cheyenne,

Actually... That isn't what the question was about... There is no doubt this topic is fine.

Swordfish wrote a guide about Sugar Babies and FemDom. Specifically, how to properly present yourself as a Sugar Daddy, how to find the "right" kind of girls on those sites (ie, with FemDom leanings) & how to introduce them to FemDom play.

He was asking: 1) If people would be interested in reading it & 2) If it would be appropriate to share it here as a post (I responded that it seemed to fit as an off-topic post).

Right! Cheyenne, what I was asking is, okay to post my write up on how to find femdom on SA here?

Thanks. I've got to get myself familiar with the new terms in people are using today. Sugar bsbies? Hmmm.

This is not my thing so I can't explain it very well but think the female counterparts to a Sugar Daddy... Basically, young females (18 - 25 or so) put themselves on sites dedicated to this looking for older male benefactors.

Swordfish will have to explain how it actually works but I do know of some findom types who also do this (and frankly I don't see much difference between the two other than the attitudes being different... I.e., findoms are "I deserve" while Sugar Babies are "Thank you for taking care of me Daddy").

Swordfish,

Because we are not really of that culture, could I ask a favor that you spell out the slang/acronyms you are throwing around if/when you post them on this subject (at least the first time in a post)?

I've figured out "SB" (Sugar Baby) & "SD" (Sugar Daddy) but "SA" & "Seeking" threw me for a bit... I am about 80% sure these both refer to the "Seeking Arrangements" website but that actually took me a while to guess and I know I could still be wrong.

Thanks,

Asp

Miss Mary,

I know your post was about lifestyle and romantic relationships, but I just realized the easy test to answer the question I quoted above. If you couldn't indulge your fetishes or find a sexual partner, which would you be willing to pay for?

I gladly pay to be Dominated (because I can't indulge my fetishes any other way) but have never had an interest in paying to have sex even when I have gone a long time without it.

I could be wrong because I have no experience with either Findom or any aspect of sugaring but I think the difference would be findom is online relationships with no meeting up and sugaring is an actual real life real time arrangement where the SD and SB meet and do things together with a financial arrangement.

Agree. Companionship is important. It works for me because my social circles are made of up kinksters.

That is a great response and a fabulous way to feel about a partner, whether it is vanilla or kink. Kudos to you.