There are lots of books that are supposedly like this but the problem is that too many are written by wannabes who dipped their toe into our world for a very short while & then found their true calling as media whores after they "retired" at age 23 from a house-style dungeon (where they inevitably started as a sub and were "trained" as a Domme).

The problem is that it is extremely difficult to be a great writer (even though everyone thinks they are). It is extremely difficult to be a great storyteller (which is both different than being a great writer & critical to the book you wish to read). It is also difficult to have an understanding of the totality of the scene, the self-awareness of how your approach leads to the niches where you fit within it (FemDom is always bigger than anything any single Domme can do or be), & an understanding of how your career integrates with all of the other aspects of your life.

So, to find all of these skills in a single person who also has the time, energy & motivation to write a book that will probably make them no money is a really tall task, imo. However, I can tell you that I know plenty of Women whose lives are more than interesting enough to fill volumes rather than just a single book, so you are not being too dramatic in your thoughts.