Hello all,

I'm so glad I found this forum!

I was wondering if there's a proper etiquette for discussing specifics around a scene with a domme beforehand? I'm a fetishist & usually do roleplay, and I usually have very specific things I'd like the domme to do or say in order to "scratch the itch" per se. Is it ok to correspond with that type of thing over Email, or is it better to have it memorized/written down for when I finally meet with the domme? I know her time is valuable.

A follow-up question I have: I've been sessioning for around 20 years, and I've always done role-play in order to have the scene make sense. My main kink is OTK spanking, so it's always angry girlfriend or strict teacher/governess. Does anyone have some pointers for having a good spanking session where you're not roleplaying? I'm concerned about not being able to get into the right headspace without the role play