Good points. I probably oversimplified to make a fast post.

I do think it is more widely practiced pr at least accepted than most realize. But because its rarely talked about is never normalized. As a result many of us feel some shame or isolation for our kinks. At least to a degree.

I will say that i pick and choose my spots on when to disclose my interests but i have been met with non judgement or accepting responses 100% of the time. Being able to be homest and candid has been freeing in these situations.