Spark, I agree with you. My mindset in doing sessions, for the past two decades at least is before I make an appointment and then getting ready for it in the days or hours prior to meeting the Mistress, is that She has hired me for Her entertainment. My pleasure is being used and making her happy.

Oh, all the Mistresses I have served have been firm, assertive and demanding, even one I sessioned with who was a switch. I've always discussed limits and some Mistresses, intuitively knew when and how to push them. I haven't done findom, but I have made deposits for sessions (or donation if needed) with two Mistresses I knew very well, one I still know today. Just writing this the endorphins are kicking in. LOL!

I've been slapped, spanked, rope or chain bondage, caged, humped, some public play and the Mistresses were all demanding. But not to the level of heavy verbal humiliation.