I am much older now and I am a current relationship. Ever since I was in my mid 30s I have always been up front with my GFs and told them I have a Femdom kinky side. I think I am more lucky then must as my range of kink varies from very light to hardcore extreme. So all my relationships understood and accepted my kink. I do npt session nearly as of much as I use to due to the fact I have been in relationships. But when I do I let the lady I am seeing know I have the urge to session and need to see someone to paly hard. All I can do is be upfront and let the chips fall/

This is a much better approach then what I did before in my younger days. This may explain to a degree I way I have chose to be single all my life as I allowed my kink to be a big part of my life.