I'm so glad you chimed in here. Your situation was part of what inspired the post. What it is so touching about the relationship you have with your wife, at least from what I hear from the outside looking in, is that you are are somewhat submissive to her is your marriage. She definitely comes first with you. I get tickled when we are chatting on the phone about major life decisions, like where to live in retirement for example. You let her drive the bus. I wonder if she knows that, in a certain regard, she is domming you. Perhaps, it is a form of justification, but I've never seen my happily married husbands as wronging their wives by sneaking away for sessions. When I was an active and very busy dom in my early days of building a career, I rarely dated. There wasn't a place for it in my life then. I'd see my married clients out the door and wave goodbye, thinking, "Their wife is really lucky." Most of my married clients, as you seem to, have their wives on a pedestal.