Great topic Mistress Ayn, i see myself as a selective alpha and that selectivity has come with age.

In work i see myself giving up more and more of the day to day responsibilities that i used to demand were all mine.

i am more strategically alpha these days letting others grown by making more and more of the daily decisions but i still hold the final say when it suites me.

As i went to write that i still have things at work on tight leash but i have left a little more slack in the lead these past few years. After i wrote this, i smiled and realized that this statement could represents the likely outcome of a long term Mistress / sub relationship. Alpha /beta Life is similar when i am at work and when i am serving a Mistress in the Dungeon.

Let me explain, when a sub is first in service to a Dominatrix She has to keep him in check as limits are made clear and the relationship develops.

What a Dominatrix has to make a sub accept in earlier sessions (no slack in the leash) can later on, if the relationship blossoms, be accomplished with a slack leash because the sub is conditioned to obey i.e. think and act in a certain way, much like a junior at work advances in their decision making process and their reward is less oversight.

i am sure that there area lot of situations where the commands given to a sub would be obeyed solely because of the respect the sub has for the Domme's power and authority over him. i can imagine that You have lots of subs who will obey You with nothing more than a symbolic loose lead to guide them.

Your Final Say is the leash and collar in a session yet i believe that some subs may be so attuned to service that they will obey You without needed restraint. Why, because they crave the feeling that comes from devoted obedience.

Maybe it is the beta in us that has emotionally transferred and transformed from our work alpha that creates a strong desire for some of us to serve unconditionally.

This raises a question for the Dominatrix, would a sub who behaved like a well trained dog and accepted voice rather in lieu of leash commands move you more into Domme Space?

Every Domme and sub are different , and of course each Relationship/relationship is different. In my case i cannot image refusing any of the commands for session activity that i have already experienced under the tutelage of my Dominatrix.

Sometimes a physical leash is needed because it is part of a session or part of a build up to something new, but in many cases as a Domme / sub relationship evolves the act of doing what the Mistress wants solely as a result of her asking the sub to do it, may turn the intensity level of a session up past 10 and onto 11.

As an example, it is one Command level for the Mistress to lead a collared and leashed unwilling sub across a dungeon floor and into a forced bi session. It would be a fare different scenario if the Mistress simply told the reluctant but well trained sub to crawl over to the Saint Andrews Cross and as part of a verbal forced bi-session provide release to the sub waiting for relief.