I am new to all of this. It is doubtful that I will have an actual session. 2 years ago I met and moved in with a woman who is on the kinky side of life. Most of the time our life is normal. But when she gives me that look when I leave for work, all day I am distracted with what will happen when I get home. Once she sent me to Home Depot with an interesting list. I didn't get it at first. But, by the time I got to the cash register, my head was spinning. So, I'd say, as soon as I know it's going down, the experience starts for me.