I had dinner with a sub/client recently and he brought up an interesting concept. Speaking for himself he said that he was not truly alpha, but more of a beta male forced into an alpha role in work and family. He has never had an easy time communicating with women or feeling confident around them. Playing the forceful negotiator/enforcer at work tests his limits regularly, it's stressful and it's a real effort to stay in the alpha role sometimes. That is one of the reasons he thinks he enjoys FemDom sessions so much. He can let all that go temporarily and be the beta he truly is, with no negative ramifications at work or in his personal life.

It's common knowledge that most subs that visit Dommes are very "in charge" in their everyday lives and that is one reason they come to submit - so they have a safe place to let go and NOT be in control. But I am curious. How do you subs see yourselves - as more alpha or beta?