When I’m actively sesioning, I love giving references. I find a solid referral from an established Domme along with a careful, considerate, respectful intro email greatly improves my response rate, and seems to get me in the door faster. It’s also incredibly fair for a Domme to require one as as you’re a stranger on the internet who is in to kink. Who in their right mind would let that person in without some due diligence? The few escorts I’ve met, usually ask for a lot more verification.

Where I struggle, is when I take an extended hiatus (once was for a couple years), it’s kind of like starting over and hard to provide a good reference. I guess the easy solve is not to take a hiatus, lol.