Outside of those who are in the scene, no one believes me, which is fine with me. The cliche of a dominatrix, Bettie Page hair, tattoos, dysfunctional controlling personality doesn't apply to me at all. When I do tell people what I do, I usually have to explain the broader aspects of BDSM. It generally works in my favor as no one suspects I am doing anything out of the ordinary.

Tangentially, it happens every so often that I will be with my friends and feel I am sharing a nonchalant story about my work day. Only then to look up at a wall of faces in shock, who totally forgot I pee on people on a regular basis.