I prefer one on one even in the conversations with friends in vanilla life. In a good relation intimacy is as important as play in a session, and I am not necessarily speaking about physical intimacy. I would look at a second mistress as competition for the attention of the first, and I do not like the idea of two mistresses talking over my head. I want undivided attention. Besides I could not afford publicity.

Having said that I did offer once to take part in a video when I thought that it would have made a difference for a partner who was at a turning point.