I got to think about Mistresses I have served and known over the yearsa and realized the ones I've known well, trusted and had the best times with in my over-the-top role play all had some type of artistic background.

I won't mention names except for the late Ava Taurel. She was an actress and filmmaker. She introduced me to a mature lady in the late 1980s who worked as a domina and an escort. (She had legs like redwoods.) By training she was a professional dancer, most notably at the original Copacabana in NYC during the early 1960s.

Another domina Ava introduced me to was a model, artist and designer. A Vegas "showgirl"/fitness expert used to visit NYC who was a voice actress and produced her own kink videos. Another domina is a graphic artist and photographer by trade. That doesn't include female bodybuilders & dominas, one who is a celebrity in her country, and a couple others who produce videos as part of their businesses, the likes of which could be on Netflix. I could go on, but you get the point.

No matter if you have an artistic background, to be a domina you have to be creative. If Mistresses want to comment, feel free. But the question for my fellow subs is this: have you noticed or found out that your favorite dominas have some type of an artistic or performing arts background? As usual, any and all comments are welcome.

In my experience, there is definitely a natural artistic bent to most Pro Dommes I know. This is not as much the case for the Pros that move into it from other areas such as escorting or stripping but and it my impression is that it is very prominent in those that come from natural Dominance, rubber or fetish modeling.

Of course, with the explosion of Findumbs and women who think that demanding money or just denigrating men on social media is being a Domme, I don't know if this still holds true with the newest generation in the same way it did with those that were in the business 10 years ago (and before).

Aspx, I don't know about today's "findumbs" as you call them, and the like. I do remember getting back into the scene in the mid-1990s after a long hiatus and there were plenty of young dominas advertised at NY dungeons of the time who had ads looking like they saw one too many Madonna MTV videos and thought that was what the scene was about. And, back then, even the '70s and '80s, there were always so-called dominas who yelled, screamed demanding money.

Those attitudes haven't changed, just the media they are using to get an audience.

To junglebeast’s question now that i think about it many of the dommes i know are artistic. Maybe the skillset lends itself to femdom. I have zero artistic ability but i do think i am creative.

Not to take this thread off topic and at the risk of getting flamed. Ill post a quick defense of findom. Ive been doing findom for many years. Im pretty heavy into it right now. Done right its incredibly intense and erotic as a power exchange. I get that the scene is a shitshow online and definitely not for everyone. But i have built some great relationships with dommes and in a strange way experienced true submission through it. Like every other kink there are highs, lows, limits, pain, endorphin rushes etc. if negotiated and discussed it can be a very interesting experience

Let me say I agree with you. Financial domination is a valid and powerful fetish (although not one of mine) and I respect Dommes who do it as part of an overall relationship in the same way they may do with foot worship or corporal for men with those as they're primary fetish.

When I say findumbs, I am not talking about women who understand power exchange, D/s and the skills/knowledge it takes to be a Domme. I am referring to women who think posting some selfies while denigrating all subs/men on social media and demanding that they pay money before ever interacting with them makes them a Domme.

JB,

I'm sorry but we have to disagree on this point. The women you refer to were actual working Pro Dommes unlike the findumbs I am referring to. The Dommes of the past may have focused on manipulating men to make the most money they could (which is very much a stripper attitude) but they still had to have some idea about D/s and some BDSM skills just to work in a dungeon setting.

You are correct that the way findumbs of today meet clients is very different but it is that zero barrier to entry that makes it a completely different thing from the women you are comparing them to. Financial Domination is a valid fetish but just demanding money from guys doesn't make a woman a Domme and there is a large difference between a findumb and a Domme who does Financial Domination.

Interesting topic. A lot of Dommes (or other SWers) I know had another vocation before finding their calling in Femdom.

In the past, I had a background in media (radio, voice overs, TV, newspapers, magazines). Back in the day, I had my own call in show. This experience lent itself well when I worked for nearly a year for Redlight Central TV in UK doing something similar called The Domme Show.

I also worked as an executive secretary at a boardroom level for a few years. This role inspired my office domination series called Bellatrix Inc where I use a lot of corporate jargon in a Femdom context.

I feel that all of my experiences in my former "civilian" life were transferrable skills which have definitely shaped my brand and creative process.

I am not into findom but I can see it’s allure if done well which to me would have to have an element of actual physical interaction at least periodically. I was wondering if your experience with findom been entirely online or have you met the Domme you are playing this with?

Well, come to think of it I kind of experienced findom a couple of times. Two Mistresses trusted me enough to make deposits directly to their bank accounts. In going to their banks, usually at lunch, I'd get a bit aroused knowing why I was there and what I was doing. The big kick was texting the Mistress after the deposit was completed, and usually I'd get a suggestive text in response. So I can understand the appeal.

My initial findom experiences were entirely in person. It started With pro Dommes who i did in person sessions with. I would pay them to stop punishing me, to let me out of chastity etc. All of this was in addition to my session fees. Over time this turned into just findom where i would give them money as a form of submission and a power exchange.

While i dabbled online my findom experience was primarily in person. I actually wasnt looking to change the in person setup. When Covid struck i started a distance relationship with an online findom. Im surpised how much i like the interaction. What has been really enjoyable for me is the constant contact. Much of online findom seems to be based on the concept of subs sending money and getting nothing for it. But my setup is different. We are in touch daily. We session virtually once or twice a week. Ive never had that experience and it makes me feel like im in a true D/s relationships We are making plans to meet a few times a year but based on distance it will mostly be an online relationship.

No doubt im paying for that level of interaction. And the relationship takes a lot of effort from both of us. If i had to guess she spends close to 20 hours virtually a month with me. Much of what we do Is a form of consensual non consent. She has my credit card. She spends what she wants within pre discussed limits. But the excitement of not knowing how much she will spend one month vs the next makes it exciting for me. The sacrifice to adjust to her spending habits is on me. Sometimes she just calls me because she wants to do something and wants me to pay for it. Knowing that she can do what she wants without worrying about money and its my job as a sub to make that happen really heightens my submissive side

I get its not for everyone. I probably couldnt take one swing of a cane but im happy to do this. Im lucky that i can indulge this with my discretionary income and dont have a family to hide it from.