Originally Posted By Blu
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It takes a huge amount of strength to truly submit to someone else in our world. To give up control and subvert your own desires to someone else that you fully trust is a big thing.


But this is never the case, is it? The sub always ultimately sets bounds and limitations to say the least. Ultimately each different session is a different business transaction and if either of dom/sub don’t like to continue doing business with each other they have zero obligations to continue it, right?


I agree with everything you specifically said as every relationship, whether it involves BDSM or not, has each person in the relationship setting the rules/limits of what they will put up with. However, I think the unstated implication of your statement is wrong.

As Mistress Ayn stated, in a purely transactional Pro / client relationship it does function the way you stated and if that is your attitude about seeing a Pro Domme (even if you see the same one for years). However, if you see it as a true Domme / sub or Mistress / slave relationship (whether money is involved or not) then it is about serving and pleasing her rather than your own desires. It can be about limit pushing but it can also be that she really enjoys an activity that you don't (but isn't across a limit) and you submit to it for the higher purpose of bringing hee pleasure.

It takes strength to put her needs and wants over your own, especially if you are a client who is paying money for that experience. Also, some relationships extend beyond the session doors and may include limit pushing. The fact it does that is also something that is negotiated but that may make your specific limit lost a suggestion rather than actual limits.
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