I think you are talking about the difference between submission in the normal, non-sexual, vanilla world vs. the choice to submit to a specific person for a specific period of time or on an ongoing basis.

Men who get bullied and pushed around, who won't stand up for themselves whenever there is a conflict and always just give in are weak and usually are like that because of a lack of confidence. That may make them submissive personalities but that has nothing to do with what we view as submissive behavior in our community.

It takes a huge amount of strength to truly submit to someone else in our world. To give up control and subvert your own desires to someone else that you fully trust is a big thing. Unlike guys with no backbone, it is an active choice to do so (even if you are just making the choice to book a session) as opposed to the weak people who are just suffering the daily indignities that are foisted upon them in life.

The world may see it as one person bossing around another person and doing all kinds of evil things to them. But that is part of an agreed upon dynamic that requires confidence and trust in the Domme by the sub. So, submitting is a serious act of strength even if the world only sees that I am being spit-roasted and peed on while wearing full makeup, a maid's outfit and a chastity device. *looking dreamily into the distance and forgetting what we were talking about*