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#11525 - 08/09/20 05:21 AM Doms who Switch
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Last night I had an interesting conversation with a long time friend about his moving his subbie girl in with him. He is more on the submissive side of the play fence than dominant but, he likes it all. I raised the question how it would go for their Master/subbie girl relationship if she saw him switch. In a perfect world, they could have a Dom friend over and top both of them when the mood strikes. But, we were both skeptical if it would change the dynamics of their relationship if she saw him play slave for the evening. What are your thoughts? If you saw your Dom switch, would it put you off?

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#11527 - 08/09/20 07:23 AM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: Cheyenne]
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I have never felt much connection or any connection to any dominant woman before and during a session, I do not think I ever really get into the role of a submissive, rather I just enjoy the activities taking place at the time from a fetish perspective, but...

Yeah, if I saw a woman who I thought was supposed to be dominant, in about 90% of the cases, I would be turned off and would not see them as dominant.

The only exceptions would be someone like Aiden Starr or some top dommes like her who can really pull off that sort of thing and being able to switch gives them credibility or highlights a unique performance ability. In most other settings though, I would just assume that the person is trying to cater to whoever hires them and I wouldn't not find it attractive.

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#11528 - 08/09/20 09:49 AM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: Cheyenne]
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Originally Posted By Cheyenne
Last night I had an interesting conversation with a long time friend about his moving his subbie girl in with him. He is more on the submissive side of the play fence than dominant but, he likes it all. I raised the question how it would go for their Master/subbie girl relationship if she saw him switch. In a perfect world, they could have a Dom friend over and top both of them when the mood strikes. But, we were both skeptical if it would change the dynamics of their relationship if she saw him play slave for the evening. What are your thoughts? If you saw your Dom switch, would it put you off?


Mistress, your question is another revelation to me that even though I have tons of experience my tastes in session (and I guess the Dominas I've served) have been off the beaten path, no pun intended.

For instance, the first time I became a switch in session was in a role play where "Tarzan" was supposed to save the "Amazon Princess" and by the end of the session he became her addicted male slut. The Mistress, who was in her late 20s, agreed to be tied up (lightly) to begin the session. "Tarzan" unties and saves her and they escape. Sadistic seduction ensues by the time that make camp for the night and at the end the "Princess" was dominant and Tarzan a sub. Something similar happened with a dominant female bodybuilder. "Tarzan" was far more physical with her, and it happened naturally without discussing it first, but by the end the FBB made me her sub.

Both cases were not relationships, but I sessioned with each several times so there was mutual trust and chemistry. Each lady loved the creativity of it, as did I, and the ladies, and myself, ALWAYS knew they were in charge. I was acting.

Over the years, especially in NYC in the '80s & '90s, I always heard and read that new Dominas were trained as subs by veteran Mistresses to understand the dynamics. The stories sounded a bit like urban legends so I'm not sure.

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#11530 - 08/09/20 11:25 AM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: Cheyenne]
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Originally Posted By Cheyenne
Last night I had an interesting conversation with a long time friend about his moving his subbie girl in with him. He is more on the submissive side of the play fence than dominant but, he likes it all. I raised the question how it would go for their Master/subbie girl relationship if she saw him switch. In a perfect world, they could have a Dom friend over and top both of them when the mood strikes. But, we were both skeptical if it would change the dynamics of their relationship if she saw him play slave for the evening. What are your thoughts? If you saw your Dom switch, would it put you off?


Since I am a Switch it would definitely not put me off.

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#11531 - 08/09/20 11:47 AM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: Cheyenne]
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This is one of those questions where I might not know my true answer unless I see (and feel) it. But my hypothetical answer is that I think seeing her sub to a woman, or both of us subbing together to that woman, might actually be a turn-ON. I think seeing her sub to a man might be tougher.

That said, I have seen pro dommes who switch in the past -- I love doing sessions where I'm dominant the first 15 minutes, and then she "rebels" and takes control. The fact that she's willing to switch, obviously means she's doing it with other clients as well. Don't ask, don't tell, maybe smile

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#11532 - 08/09/20 11:52 AM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: junglebeast]
Cheyenne Offline

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The Amazon Princess/Tarzan role play sounds like so much fun!!! It also makes me wonder if the switching was in the context of such a scenario that it would not effect the way she looks at her "Daddy." Hmmmm....

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#11533 - 08/09/20 12:33 PM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: John_Bolton]
Cheyenne Offline

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Even as a prodom (Now retired) myself, I've always felt weird about women who did anything asked of them, be it in sessions or videos. I did know a few doms who switched now and then because they simply loved everything kink. That was cool. It is hard to describe the difference between pandering to any request, out of desperation and just getting your freak on once in a while, but it was one of those things...you knew it when you saw it.

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#11534 - 08/09/20 12:38 PM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: The Thomas]
Cheyenne Offline

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Cool. It is interesting how some people are strictly femdom and some are just kinky.

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#11535 - 08/09/20 12:41 PM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: Swordfish]
Cheyenne Offline

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Registered: 07/12/19
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Unless cuckolding or bi sexual activity was part of the scene, I can relate to where you are coming from. In all of the years I've had my websites, I've never filmed a couple subbing to a Domintrix. That would be hot. Maybe under the guise of alternative marriage counseling?

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#11536 - 08/09/20 12:48 PM Re: Doms who Switch [Re: Cheyenne]
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Maybe under the guise of alternative marriage counseling?


Yes! I have a few (too few) clips where the plot is a couple submitting to one mistress. Alternative marriage counseling is one I've seen a few times. Another plot I've seen a few times is that he secretly has a mistress his wife finds out about, the wife decides to confront the mistress, mistress makes both submit. A little more confrontational than alternative marriage counseling, but a little hotter because of it.

I have always fantasized about doing a scene with two women where there's one domme who is dominant over both of us, but both women are dominant over me


Edited by Swordfish (08/09/20 12:48 PM)

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