While I've always been totally accepting of what other people want to do, it has bothered me to see men top women. I will never forget being at the HellFire Club when a pot belly man who looked like he had no respect for himself was whipping the heck out of a cute young lady. I had to walk away. It was not my business what the two of them enjoyed. It just seemed abusive to me in a way that was uncomfortable. I will say the exception to male top/ fem sub, is when it is benevolent. Two of my long ago friends were such a couple. When they did shows, it was obvious that his goal was to bring her erotic satisfaction. He was protective over her. It was a cool dynamic they had going on. It would still probably blow the fantasy for a lot of men who see the lady of their interest only as a top. But, I respected, that he seemed to be serving her more than the other way around.