I really like that idea!

Aside from hyphenated names getting unwieldy I like the symbolism of a couple choosing a new name together. As equals, taking on a new identity and a new life together. Sharing equally in the benefits and burdens of taking on a new name,showing the world you belong to each other.

Its not oppression if I wanted to do it. To get into that sort of relationship to begin with I would need to respect, admire, and think the world of that woman. If that was the case I would want to do things for her.

I agree with what you're saying here, Soapy.

I would not take anyone's name, man or otherwise. I would not expect him to do the same for me (though my last two partners indicated they would take my name if we married).

As a person who has a knee-jerk response to various traditions, I would rather see men take women's names. But tend to think that what's even more interesting is when a partnership results in a new name for them both. Whether it's hyphenated or a new name altogether. A potential genealogical headache, but fitting symbolically.

I hadn't heard of this idea before.

I really like it. It seems to have a lot of positive "team spirit", positivity, and a strong statement behind it.

I'm open-minded about a lot of things but too damned traditional... yeah old. I don't know. I'm not sure how I would have reacted in "the Dark Ages" when my wife and I got married. In my experience a few longtime couples we know, friends and family, the wives have kept their maiden names professionally (in a couple of cases hyphenated it), but legally the name they use is their husbands. I once worked with a guy who was very forward thinking at the time (around 1980) and when he got married he hyphenated his name.

All of this is about respect, comfort and a bit of practicality (home loans, credit cards... legalities) mixed in.

I think that this is more interesting as a hypothetical question than a real one. Usually a domme uses a different name in her trade, like Cheyenne. I think that some respondents are thinking of that name rather than the real name, like Porky Rogers. The same goes for subs, my real name is not Komodo. I think that most people want a separation between their play and their life, and they want privacy in their life.

Taking the name of the wife draws attention to both in a way that probably neither of them would want.

I would take whatever she wanted......to be married to a Femdom is the dream! She could write my vows....she would own everything, would control everything, I would promise to honor and obey and grovellingly serve until death do us part....or she kicks me to the kerb.....for which I would be eternally grateful....my mistress's decisions are without question.