Changing your name is a hassle and some women choose not to do it and it has nothing to do with being able to trust either one of them.

I was just talking to a friend of mine last week who I had not spoke to recently. Her and her husband have been married for 10 years and she's like mid 50s. She's a registered professional, so changing her last name would involve the regular channels as well as the professional boards that she's registered under. She is also known professionally by her maiden name.

I don't know if they are kinky or not but it would be ridiculous and insulting for me to start asking her why she did not take her husband's name. Her and her husband are really top notch people and it would be poorly viewed to start asking them those types of questions.

People should have a right to do what makes them happy.