Thanks for the kind words, Cheyenne. Yes, I still would like to meet and shoot with you.

Here's why is it misogynist:

Saying that you cannot trust a man whose wife does not take his last name is because the assumption is that that man can't keep his wife under his thumb. The whole tradition of a woman changing her name is a form of symbolic assimilation, ownership. It is fundamentally about turning her into a possession, which is dehumanizing and that is all part of the misogynistic mindset.

Now, we may argue this is one little comment. And perhaps turdbur-I mean Donal--I mean Rudolf should be given a cursory warning, but if we want to keep this a FemDom board, we cannot allow the women to be insulted -- whether directly or indirectly -- by the men who choose to participate.

I love having conversations about kink with my community -- especially ones with depth -- and so I very much appreciate boards like this. But I have far too much self respect to hang out in a place which tolerates blatant hateful opinions of women. I would hope any FemDom would agree with me.

Hateful attitudes are not mere "opinion". Saying you prefer to be spanked on a lap versus a bench is opinion.

Hateful attitudes toward women -- in a forum driven by the presence and practice of women -- makes zero sense.

I have to disagree. There is a difference between being the class clown and someone who truly harasses people. Censorship should be used sparingly. I asked him to reign in the volume of threads he was posting and he did. The death of a discussion forum is over censorship.

My wanting to not be subjected to shitty comments directed toward women isn't a matter of "self-importance" or "over-moderation". How revealing of you to see it that way.

Asking men to refrain from being sexist is apparently beyond the ability of some. And instead of asking these people to play nice or go elsewhere, the argument is to tolerate and enable them, FemDoms be damned.

You think this guy is just a "class clown"? Oh boy.

This guy, who I feel pretty confident is the same person who has had other shitpost accounts, is getting off at this. He's not here to make us laugh, he's here to make himself laugh - and at the expense of others. See: troll.

Changing your name is a hassle and some women choose not to do it and it has nothing to do with being able to trust either one of them.

I was just talking to a friend of mine last week who I had not spoke to recently. Her and her husband have been married for 10 years and she's like mid 50s. She's a registered professional, so changing her last name would involve the regular channels as well as the professional boards that she's registered under. She is also known professionally by her maiden name.

I don't know if they are kinky or not but it would be ridiculous and insulting for me to start asking her why she did not take her husband's name. Her and her husband are really top notch people and it would be poorly viewed to start asking them those types of questions.

People should have a right to do what makes them happy.

That’s true too. My sister changed her name when she first got married. After they divorced she changed it back to her maiden name even after she married again to a different guy.

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