Thanks for the breakdown!

I don't think being given privileges necessarily makes you a bad sub. It just means you weren't trained. But then, not everyone *can* be trained. Not everyone wants to be trained. I would put most fetishists in this category. One's fetish can make you have feelings of submission, but that is not the same as being a submissive.

Another weird story: Again, while working at Rebecca's (one of the best times of my life I have to say) there was a guy who would come in and want to see "busty" women. He did not want to touch them and he did not want anyone to take their shirt off- he just wanted you to talk about how big they were. How big they were, and how big they were going to get- like swallow your whole head kind of big. How they would float you away like huge balloons sort of big. One day I realized that it was not about breasts, but about the thought of them getting "bigger and bigger" (a phrase he loved).

He had a pneumatic fetish. It had nothing to do with the actual look or feel of the breasts themselves. Which I found charming and still do.


Best,


V