Chastity is now a life-style choice for me, with Mistress Ayn as my Keyholder. It started out as a fantasy - a 2-week trial - and just evolved. During a rare necessity for me to be out of my cage for two days, i felt odd and uncomfortable. The cage is a part of me. Even though my Keyholder exerts Her control long distance and i have a key for maintenance and emergencies, there is no interest in letting myself out of chastity and disobeying my Keyholder. It is a wonderful reminder throughout the day when i feel the cage and i smile, knowing that this is now my life and it is special. Thamnk You, Mistress Ayn, for this "indefinite chastity" experience.

Your directness is so overpowering. Would you allow me to pledge my long-term chastity to you? I have been seeking a mistress who would demand chastity. You can check my compliance every day. Devotion is my middle name. Let me know how I can inform you I been obedient!

I just experienced chastity, I guess technically for the second time. Albeit on a very short term basis. As opposed to the first time, this time it was required I tease myself and I have come to the same conclusion - love it and hate it.




It does seem to be a mindfuck and I love the mental just as much as the physical. It also really enforces that feeling of submission. Your pleasure is owned/controlled by someone else, and you're completely at their mercy.

In theory, I like it. In practice, I find that men usually aren't very fun to play with. Most are looking for tops, not Dommes. I'm not a chastity top.

Whats the difference between a top and a domme?

Simple answer: Dominance is about control and topping is about providing sensation. They often go together but are not mutually inclusive.

Detailed answer: https://bdsmlog.mistresstissa.com/position-role-and-fetishism/

Trying to identify NEW next steps for long-term chastity.

i have been in chastity for so long that i no longer count the days, months or ... to celebrate this feat. Rather, i am in "indefinite chastity," a term my Keyholder - Mistress Ayn - prefers.

Every day i am in chastity, it is - as i mentioned earlier in this thread - simply a part of me, my life. i never ask permission to take the cage off unless extreme circumstances require it. i visit my physician, work, play, exercise, relax, everything while in chastity.

So, how to make it more exciting and not routine? Well, the cage broke so i was without a chastity cage until a new one could be ordered. That truly felt weird. Mistress Ayn ordered me to purchase a pink cage - of course - but with sparkles. It is truly humiliating. As an aside, Holy Trainer's new version 4 chastity cage is excellent. New, stronger design, more comfortable, good for long-term wear!

Finally, i asked Mistress Ayn is i could purchase a new chastity cage - a smaller size. i am wearing it this weekend - July 4th to celebrate my non-independence (Mistress Ayn's idea of course). It is even more restrictive, making any erection nearly impossible.

Even after a long time in chastity, there can be a new way for my Mistress to exert Her control over me as my Keyholder.

It is wonderful to be kept chaste to a Mistress. For me sometimes it is locked and the rest of the time, for the last 18 months, I am 24 X 7 in "Mental Chastity" to my Mistress. She permanently owns me, has carved Her mark into my leg with a scalpel and refreshed it many times, and has taken permanent possession of that part of me. It is now Hers. I am NEVER allowed to bring pleasure to myself except through ordered tease and denial. Honestly, I would not want it any other way. I am Her slave and She is my Goddess.