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#7223 - 10/03/19 04:54 PM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Swordfish]
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Artisan
Registered: 12/11/18
Posts: 97
Loc: Connecticut
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This isn't how I view the yellow/green safe word play. I've never had green as an option given to me before, but for me red is just flat out a safe word, and yellow is a "Ow, I please give me a breather." at least for me.
Like for example if it's getting to the point where I literally just can't take anymore punishment whatsoever because every hit is starting to hurt way too much, i'll use red. But in the middle of the session I may take a hit in the wrong area (Like a cane that stays a little too low and hits my crown jewels!) i'll say yellow just to let my mistress know I need a pause to recuperate. I don't ever use it more than once a session.
I do like your version of a safeword though. I may float your idea to my mistress if I ever decide to do CBT haha.
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#7229 - 10/03/19 07:37 PM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Cheyenne]
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Regular
Registered: 10/31/15
Posts: 127
Loc: California
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Thanks! I'm just gratified that it came across, seemed like a lot of awkward words to describe something that feels super natural and fun once you start doing it.
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#7230 - 10/03/19 07:38 PM
Re: Code Words
[Re: AssSniffer1999]
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Regular
Registered: 10/31/15
Posts: 127
Loc: California
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I do like your version of a safeword though. I may float your idea to my mistress if I ever decide to do CBT haha.
Go for it! The other thing dommes like about it is, even as I'm signalling my limit, I'm doing it in a way that's a "victory" for her, and makes her feel even more dominant...
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#7231 - 10/03/19 07:47 PM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Cheyenne]
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Regular
Registered: 10/19/15
Posts: 162
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I will always accept a safeword protocol if the Domme insists. However, I prefer not to use code or safewords simply because shortly after a session begins I am very quickly in a pretty deep subspace. At that point, I am probably not going to be very objective in terms of my ability to continue. For this reason, I only play with very experienced Dommes who, as several of you have stated in this thread, have the ability to monitor and read a sub's condition and reactions. That is my decision but I realize I anm ultimately responsible for my own safety in a session. I just believe that the Domme is a better equipped to read my reactions than I will be while I am in subspace.
However, I wont hesitate to communicate if there is something happening that the Domme might not be aware of. For example, I have been told that I am very heavy leather bondage slut, and every once in a great while the restrictive bondage significantly interferes with my breathing, and I don't mean a hand over the mouth or pinched nostrils. The Domme has always stopped the session, asked me if there is problem, I tell her what's happening, she makes the necessary adjustment and the session gets right on back on track. I have had to do the same thing a few times when I got slightly dizzy, with the same results. These experiences are truly one "off type" of things and in my opinion experienced Dommmes appreciate the communication and are fantastic at dealing with it quickly and getting right back into the swing of things. Pun intended!
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#7235 - 10/03/19 11:13 PM
Re: Code Words
[Re: nysubjack]
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Pooh-Bah
Registered: 07/12/19
Posts: 2304
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That is a great point. A little off topic but, I loved playing with slaves who get into heavy sub space. It makes everything more fun for the dom too.
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#7244 - 10/04/19 04:12 AM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Cheyenne]
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Addict
Registered: 07/12/19
Posts: 430
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A good session is like a symphony, enjoyed by all participants. What it would look like if one of them suddenly stops it? I trust my mistress to pay attention to me and know how I feel without having to tell her directly. What makes a session great is being in tune with each other.
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#7245 - 10/04/19 05:22 AM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Komodo]
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Pooh-Bah
Registered: 07/12/19
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#7262 - 10/04/19 10:05 AM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Cheyenne]
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Artisan
Registered: 11/23/15
Posts: 91
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That is a great point. A little off topic but, I loved playing with slaves who get into heavy sub space. It makes everything more fun for the dom too. Thank you for that comment about subspace. My mistress and I have intense sessions that bring on subspace/topspace very quickly. I've never felt that code words are needed because our constant communication let's each other know what is taking us deeper and what is distracting from the session mood.
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#7266 - 10/04/19 10:49 AM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Zingish]
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Pooh-Bah
Registered: 07/12/19
Posts: 2304
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Exactly, my experience as well.
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#7308 - 10/05/19 05:48 PM
Re: Code Words
[Re: Cheyenne]
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Enthusiast
Registered: 10/26/15
Posts: 344
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A guy who wants you to go hard and then complains, despite no broken skin or welting on his butt sounds like an idiot and that would be true whether there were "code words" used or not!
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